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EXAMPLE: Returning Edinburgh Show – RWTHM

Written by Ben SantaMaria
Directed by Ben SantaMaria
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RUNNING TIME / NOTICES: 70 Minutes (no interval). Suitable for ages 14yrs+.

Devon, 1984. Constant pressure to be straight and act ‘masculine’. School bullies. Teenage heartache. Suicidal self-hatred. That accidental first orgasm with your best mate. Trying to tape the Top 40 off the radio without the DJ talking over the songs. Dancing defiantly to your Walkman to stay alive. A long time ago… But have things actually changed all that much? Do you really want to hurt me?

This “dark comedy with dance sequences” returns to Theatre503 after an acclaimed Edinburgh Fringe run, featuring a classic soundtrack of Culture Club, Eurythmics, Tears for Fears, The Smiths, Kate Bush and more. It’s about escaping into the joys of music like your life depends on it – because in a way, it actually does.

Flaming Theatre’s previous work includes Jarman Garden (Oxford Samuel Beckett Theatre Trust Award finalist), a multimedia, devised production about artist Derek Jarman, at Riverside Studios. Really Want To Hurt Me has been developed with support from Arts Council England and Soho Theatre Young Company.

Ben SantaMaria

Ben’s work has appeared at Soho Theatre, Southwark Playhouse, Assembly Hall in Edinburgh and ARC Stockton. He also took part in the NT Studio Directors' Course and has been an Assistant Director at The Globe, Howard Barker’s Wrestling School and Kali Theatre. His recent directing work includes After Orlando, at Theatre Royal Stratford East and The Vaults. Ben's play Deathcamp [Homeland Jingle] was published in The Dionysian. His book, Cruising Culture, is available from Edinburgh University Press.


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Ben SantaMaria
Ben SantaMaria
Ryan Price
GScene: Edinburgh Festival Review: Really Want To Hurt Me ★★★★★. By James Ledward
Posted on 9 August 2018

“Ryan Price is truly electric"

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Jack The Lad: Really Want To Hurt Me - The Old Red Lion Theatre ★★★★
Posted on 10 March 2018

"there is a warmth, honesty and heart to this play that makes it feel fresh and original... a keenly observed and worthy documentation of what it was like to be a gay teenager in Britain in the mid eighties... showcases a writer and an actor excelling at their craft."

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LGBTQ Arts Review: Really Want To Hurt Me ★★★★. By Amie Spudge Taylor
Posted on 21 February 2018

“this play is pure honesty – plain and simple. It is packed to the brim with nostalgia and memories that will twang on your heart-strings.”

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Arthur's Seat: REALLY WANT TO HURT ME, OLD RED LION THEATRE ★★★★. By Arthur Jones
Posted on 20 February 2018

"SantaMaria’s text is rich in humour, but richer still in (often uninhibited) truth"

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Spy in the Stalls: Really Want To Hurt Me, Old Red Lion ★★★★. By Stephanie Legg
Posted on 19 February 2018

"Price delivers a stunning performance of a troubled young man who has a lot of questions about himself"

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Reviews Hub: Really Want to Hurt Me, The Bike Shed Theatre, Exeter ★★★★. By Bethan Highgate-Betts
Posted on 26 January 2018

“Funny and uneasy in equal measure, this quietly beautiful show is one not to be missed."

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“Absolutely brilliant.” ★★★★★ Boyz Magazine 

“[an] absorbing coming-of-age monolgue” The Stage

“showcases a writer and an actor excelling at their craft” ★★★★ Jack the Lad

“heart-wrenching” ★★★★  LGBTQ Arts Review

“[an] incredibly touching and heartfelt play” Broadway Baby

“Ryan Price is truly electric” ★★★★★ GScene 

★★★★ LondonTheatre1

“Funny and uneasy in equal measure, this quietly beautiful show is one not to be missed.” ★★★★ Reviews Hub

“Stunning.” ★★★★ Spy in the Stalls

“rich in humour, but richer still in truth” ★★★★ Arthur’s Seat 

“deeply human, disarmingly honest and quietly moving” reviewsphere   

★★★★ Stage Talk 

“Touching, evocative… conjures time, place and character with a very effective degree of empathy.” The Scotsman

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